My wife, whom I believe has undiagnosed BPD, was hospitalized in February for SI. I think you are the first Norwegian to tell me about her BPD blog. Email: bpdfamilyconnections@gmail.com. I love them so much but I am so lost. Please give yourself time and hold on in hope. Today I turned 47 and I feel like I am 77. DUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. It can easily end up feeling hopeless and you feel helpless. Thanks for commenting. This is my second year . I had no idea what the heck it meant to have BPD. But he has so little insight. I got new "tools" to manage my feelings and how I feel about my self. The most ironic thing is: I went to school to be a counselor. Needless to say, it hasn't been easy for either of us. I have successfully alienated my oldest who is 12 and see how my behaviors are effecting my youngest who is 7. He is desperate I know. I think that one if the distinct differences in the diagnosis is the willingness to show vulnerability. How can I stay and support them, but protect myself as well?' I am praying for you, too. please know that at the very same time that we are pushing you away with our words or behavior. I'm hoping it will help myself and also my husband out. I suffered massive trauma throughout my life but particularly when i was 16 years old. I was diagnosed with BPD.. It appears you entered an invalid email. I've spent time in mental health institutions, in therapy, I have made attempts on my own life and I'm 25 years old - I feel I have been through things that most people don't go through until they are much later on in life. Explore the different options for supporting NAMI's mission. Dr. Marsha Linehan, founder of DBT, likens us to 3rd degree emotional burn victims. If you want a copy email me: dutch.christine@gmail.com. Enough said. I just love this letter. We were taught years ago that BPD was 'untreatable' and it took me a little time to take a leap of faith in DBT. As you note, they benefit from the mystery around BPD bc they can more easily confuse people, induce sympathy and get people to excuse their abuse etc. Why is it that my therapists tell me that BPD is a useless diagnosis that doesn't do anyone any good, yet I fall into nearly every criteria for the disorder and have since I was a teenager? Please trust that, with professional help, and despite what you may have heard or come to believe, we CAN and DO get better. Thanks for writing this. Copyright 2021 NAMI. Just let her know I sent you, and she'll be happy to help you get started. Originally, I had intended for those without it to read and hopefully gain just a grain of understanding. You are a strong person for working so hard to heal yourself. First of all I want to commend you on your progress and all the hard work that I am sure you have gone through to get to where you are now, especially having the courage to write this letter. Required fields are marked *. I put my family through hell for years. I held on to you so tightly then, and I still do now because, to me, you are the answer, you are the only person in the world. It indicates the ability to send an email. Even our perception that abandonment is imminent can cause us to become frantic. But what the BPD sees as abandonment, we see as self care (which ironically is one of the suggestions handed down in this open letter). ~ Dave M. Also, during those long recovery periods, she will fixate on a distorted, misremembered and misquoted version of something I'd said during the fight, always distorted to be much harsher than what I actually said, and sometimes completely "fabricated" with no basis in anything I said. It brought tears to my eyes. I am a non that just recently gave up after 4 years of chaos. A Brief Look at My Life with Borderline Personality Disorder. Main Subjects:Caring for Someone with BPD,Events,Getting Help,Living with BPD,Research,BPD in the Media, Other Subjects: Advocacy, BPD Awareness Week, Couples and Families, Family Connections Course,National BPD Conference, New Member, Sanctuary Meetings, Treatment, Validation, What is BPD. What stands out for me is HOPE! I am doing 99% better now that I got proper treatment for the eating disorder. Mick Finnegan, a 37-year-old Dubliner diagnosed with BPD, also believes the condition was rooted in his childhood. Don't think we will ever get back now, gotta give it to her though, she was the only one who understood me. I have never sought treatment (aside from counseling) for my BPD, because mostly group therapy is suggested and the last thing I want to do is talk to a bunch of strangers about my problems . I have reached out several times over the years and nothing except mean posts on facebook that make me cry for months. Just be there for her in the end when she needs you. , Oh Debbie, once again, you have kept it real. My ex has BDP. She told me about the family events she's been dealing with lately and we talked a bit through some of those, as well as a source of panic she doesn't seem ready to talk about.. Learn how your comment data is processed. I have the unique ability to "throw people off" my scent when they get close to calling me out on stuffThe only reason why I am here is because my oldest told me tonight that he knows that I am "unwell" and expressed himself honestly about those characteristics in my behavior that are destroying him emotionally to be fair, I am dealing with a lot of unnormal stuff, but am really unclear as to where it all ends and I begin I really have no idea, and I am miserable. We all receive different care and information from professionals and those around us, information has never been so easily accessible. -JB. Now, multiply that feeling times ten and that is what a person with BPD considers intense emotion. I'd use this (edit it of course) if I was getting the help I need. Zahra Navabi*, a 20-year-old student diagnosed with BPD around July 2020, has always struggled with her mental health, her perception of herself, and her relationship with her emotions. Instead, despite how I dread to say this, I am an outlet for her fears, insecurities and blame. But its not your fault. 1. I thought we would be okay, but then something I did angered her. For me as I gained more experience and I saw the positive changes DBT can lead to, this helped me to avoid that particular trap. I will try and find your blog, Lots of love Kat. I wish you peace. You always can block or delete cookies by changing your browser settings and force blocking all cookies on this website. While she was packing one day I played some Mavericks, southwestern country music I thought she would enjoy because that's where she is from. Brea, it can be really difficult when financials are suffering, but there are many people out there self-teaching the skills until such a time that they can afford to go to groups or individual DBT. BPD, Trauma, and WHY the f*#k did I just say that?! BPD: Why Do We Get Triggered By TV, Movies, and Books? I've learned how to focus on the important things and how to handle my emotions. This time tho I just dont know if I can walk in all the pain any longer. I'm really glad she did; now I can see mistakes that I've made dealing with her, and I know how to be a better and more supportive husband. It will help many (like me) who haven't put all these beautiful words and explanations together in such a succinct and informative way.You should be very proud of this as you have quite a command of BPD and how to present it in a respectful and honest manner. The following cookies are also needed - You can choose if you want to allow them: You can read about our cookies and privacy settings in detail on our Privacy Policy Page. Debbie, Thank you so much for commenting. For example, a male with BPD may engage in frequent binge drinking of. Through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, we can learn how to regulate our emotions so that we do not become out of control. over the years I couldn't figure out why I did the thjngs I did and people dealing with my behaviors would always resort to calling me crazy. This is very hard!! I'd at least come to an understanding of what it is, how it works, what it does before she did. Recovery happened through a commitment to DBT. My name was stated here originally, but due to the fact that all of my personal rights to this story are irrelevant the moment I post this, I have decided not to give it. It's seriously messed up. Something wasnt right, but you still lay down next to me every night. I hope somewhere in her heart she truly KNOWS the love I have for her and though I may never be able to see it returned to me, I everyday press on in my efforts to support her and encourage positive change. It makes a difference for us!! I am almost 50 and hate myself for having any of this. But now that i know i have BPD and i know what it means I feel like I will eventually have control over it. All of this is new to me, just as it is with so many others, and as much as I would love the help of regular therapy I know that I have to help myself - but it is HARD. We cant imagine how helpless you must feel to witness this. There is a lot of misconception out there about BPD. Thank you for expressing so eloquently and non-judgmentally what (I bet) so many with BPD wish they could say to friends and loved ones. I plan on finding someone who does DBT in my area. This insidious illness is as we know is the relationship killer. My hope is that you will gain new insight into your loved ones condition and grow in compassion and understand for both your loved one AND yourself, as this is not an easy road. You live in unbearable psychic pain most of the time and in severe cases on the border between reality and psychosis. Yes, I know. I quit writing. Thank you so much. Sometimes the best thing to do, if you can muster up the strength in all of your frustration and hurt, is to grab us, hug us, and tell us that you love us, care, and are not leaving. Ive read that DBT could be the answer to her unpredictable behaviour and fears, the problem is that we were stuck in a step before. As I read your open letter, I tried to imagine my daughter saying this to me.how very helpful! The best thing we can do during these times is remind ourselves that this too shall pass and practice DBT skills especially self-soothing things that helps us to feel a little better despite the numbness. I have a wife and a Daughter who both have BPD wanting to die and both are in Psych Wards. I have beeen through 3 years of DBT therapy and figuring out who i am and how i came to have this horrible disorder. heartbroken77 Consumer 0 Posts: 12 Joined: Wed Nov 25, 2009 4:23 am Local time: Mon Nov 28, 2022 2:16 am Blog: View Blog (0) It will be a long road, but she will need the support of her family. Borderline personality disorder is a pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, problems with self-image, intense emotions, and impulsive behavior. I am grateful for this letter. . It felt as though my very real issues were being labelled as some sort of 'mood swing'. 4. Perhaps you have tried so many things to ease the pain, but nothing has worked. Explore the different options for supporting our mission. I had struggled long and hard, it was enough. What the person with borderline personality disorder will do is they will make the five calls and immediately attempt a sixth." . Refresh the page, check Medium 's. Sorry it had to take me so long to get it, but better late then never. I am sorry you didn't feel loved. It helped with a lot of other symptoms. People with BPD may experience just a few or all of these common signs and symptoms: Extreme or unstable emotions. One must only have 5 symptoms out of 9 to qualify for a diagnosis, and the combinations of those 5-9 are seemingly endless. She has latched onto a fiction that I was mentally abusive towards her and refuses to co-parent in the interest of our son. You are not the cause of our suffering. They have similar symptoms, but I don't believe they can be classified the same. She attends a DBT Centre twice a week. Madeline Richardson. Also, I was a VERY positive person just a few years agoI was even called a Pollyanna! Initially I thought we just fell out of love and she was unable to deal with that reality (like maybe she needed a larger reason like alcoholism or abuse rather than just drifting apart). Thanks for your beautiful letter it reminds me that she can't help it and we were close for 32 years so close. I was diagnosed with BPD about seven years ago. I have watched you over the course of our relationship walk over many mountains. Don't give up on YOU. I have heard about DBT, butdon't really know much about it. She spent years in a mental hospital when she was younger now look at all of the people she's helped and continues to help. Find out how you can be a NAMI HelpLine specialist. I have to agree with DBTChick. Thank you, and best wishes for the future. That is what a fight with a loved one feels like, or how intensely they can feel love for a single person. I was so considerate and walked over again and again. 4. I no longer do the things I used to do. BPD Community Victoria. Doing a lot of reading keep reading things like don't get bogged down on the details, focus on her emotions, don't get defensive. Wow is all I can say!!! But I would like to point out that I am not (neither are other people with this disorder) hopeless to date. I'm very grateful for his letter, Christine. I got itchy, restless, looking for distractions to avoid looking at myself, my escalating issues, facing the things I didnt understand and trying to fill the void when you werent there. How is this possible? An open letter to the children of a BPD parent should simply say, "I am so very sorry for hurting you. Boredom is often dangerous for us, as it can lead to the feelings of emptiness. Changes will take effect once you reload the page. We were married for 12 years and the relationship was defined by me reassuring her that she was good enough, while she would constantly go through massive unpredictable mood swings. If you are an adult in a relationship with another adult, either through blood or through a romantic liaison, who fits the . I would be a misserable person with no goals. I dont know how to start this little note of mineSigh.. I had alter egos and they were the fun ones but I was not me anymore. Signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder. She stopped answering my calls when I wanted to know if she would be home for dinner and made excuses to avoid me, staying out until 10 or 11 pm and leaving at 7am each morning. Debbiethank you, for having the courage to write and advise about BPD, that I knew nothing of until my daughter of 27 was diagnosed 7 months ago. While these cries for help should be taken seriously, we understand that you may experience burn out from worrying about us and the repeated behavior. wow. I read your letter Debbie and most of the post. Yeah, I love hating my life and feeling like I've waste most of it and being almost 40 and feeling like a teenager. My wife tried to take her life 16 days ago. This post is just to give you an idea of the typical suffering and thoughts those of us with BPD have. My significant other felt the same way as yours that therapy was a waste of time and money, until I finally showed progress and began getting better through DBT. I've had many pschiatrists and most never mentioned BPD. clearly point to BPD. Maybe it wasnt all my fault like I was always told and I always believed. The more people are aware and care, the more people we can help. You know what it's like, in a way that no therapist does, to live with BPD day in and day out. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental health issue that causes emotional instability and can affect how people manage their moods and interact with other people. There were some days I was too depressed to go to school or to study, and there were many times I thought "how can I help others if I'm such a mess?" But working also adds more stressors to an already stressed out life. Hi Healing from BPD-What a great letter! We may avoid you, not answer calls, and decline invitations to be around you and other times, all we want to do is be around you. Thank you so much for posting this. We are not mental health professionals nor clinicians. You are toxic. I wish more people could understand what it's like, but you're right- we don't know what it's like for them to see us this way either. , Rainbow, I am so pleased and happy that this letter will be helpful to you. I was diagnosed with BPD about seven years ago. The case workers I had treated me no better. I hope we can be friends in time and partners in raising our son. You deserve to feel safe. She cant acknowledge there is a problem, much less attend therapy or consider consulting a therapist. I loved your letter. By sharing your experience, you can let others know that they are not alone. People with BPD traits often have "object permanence" issues - "out of sight is out of mind". I did drink, but it always leads me to dangerous places. Debbie, Hi Andrea you are very welcome. Unskilled borderline sufferers can be a lot to handle and some BPD behaviors necessitate separation. Even in this letter, she puts me on a pedestal and subsequently knocks me off it. I STRUGGLE to focus. I feel helpless, powerless to get my feelings accross. Ask questions. There is a lot of misconception out there about BPD. I haven't spoken to him for a week., and he hasn't contacted me. This is an open letter to anyone willing and/or needing to listen. I handle things differently thru all the therapy and med changesI still wish it to go away..since now have Bipolar tendencies and PTSD isn't this all pretty much the same stuff and the rollercoaster is ongoing? Any suggestions? So when a parent exhibits BPD symptoms, and the child becomes the target of these behaviors, it impacts who they are and who they will become. After decades of living with Depression, Anxiety and ADD myself, I knew fully well that what you think is based on the sum of your learning experiences, what you feel is the collection of emotions brought to the surface by what you think.Those are instinctive, knee-jerk reactions which cannot be helped.How you respond to those thoughts and feelings can indeed be helped.Watching my wife deal with BPD, I have seen the improvements through medication, through DBT and even ECT, but I know that it can still be the 800 pound gorilla that comes barrel-assing out of her closet every now and then.And I have all too many of my own moments.Yet for close to forty years she has been my source of safety, of comfort, because I can see her strength, I can feel her love.And I can understand, which is the most important if not only thing I can do to help. Get hand-picked resources and highlights from our Mighty community straight to your inbox. She read some of your other posts and she said she could see a lot of similarities between us. If only we all got it laid out like this. 2022 Mighty Proud Media, Inc. All Rights Reserved. However, when they are presented in a manner as if the struggle somehow evaporates at the end is not logical, because life is never so linear. Lacking emotional skin, they feel agony at the slightest touch or movement." Marsha M. Lineham This semester one of the classes I am taking is titled "Intimate Relationships," a course in which the objective is to inform students about Thank you so much for sharing.You have so many people you need to reach.If only I could help in some way. I figured it out, but only through trial, error, therapy, a good online support group and a lot of introspection and self-care on my part. My father had the ability, life experience, and the perspective needed to know this blame was unfounded. a pattern of tumultuous relationships with friends, family and loved ones. It was a touch and go for 3 days. It can be really difficult to know how to cope when someone has emotion dysregulation issues and is incredibly emotionally sensitive. Those 9 criteria and what this letter describes is sadly what i think it is like for someone to live with me. Debbie, Hi Anne thank you for commenting. Your email address will not be published. She is also using emotional blackmail, saying if I divorce her it would kill her. I think it's easy to ignore these symptoms because unless the BPD is totally irrational, the symptoms can be blown off as just overly emotional or a hard to deal with personality. But for what it's worth you're brave for writing this letter, and i hope for the people who are genuinely affected by this condition, they are heard supported and loved as they definitely don't need anymore shit. I've been doing gratefulness journals since 2000. Until I got out of all the physc stuff , non groups and started to directly talk or better said listen to those that suffer from BPD I really had no idea. How I did not walk out at that moment is beyond me. Furthermore, this grandparent generally claims to be perfectly well and claims that there is something wrong with all the rest of us. Refresh. Thank you so much for writing this, I am putting it everywhere I can. Debbie, what a brilliant letter! Early on in our diagnosis and before really digging in deep with DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), we dont have the proper tools to tell you this or ask for your support in healthy ways. Your boss is *probably* trying to be supportive and encouraging in whatever way she knows how, but only YOU know what you need in terms of support at any given time. They may do this without regard for others or possible consequences. symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder, Impulsivity and Borderline Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Recovery: What It Can Look Like. It's hard not to appear defensive when she is asking for explanations as to why I've done things. Love, Linda <3. We can learn how to stop sabotaging our lives and circumstancesand we can learn to behave in ways that are less hurtful and frightening to you. I wish to God it would stop. Dating someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be difficult at times, but it doesn't have to be something that harms your relationship. She has a 12 month lease but says she may come back sooner if go into rehab for her ( I am working on my issues with a therapist). Improve the Moment (and Your Life) with DBT, Interpersonal Effectiveness: DBT Skills at Work. It is very well written and to the point. They both feed off each other. Dear *My Name*, I wanted to write you and tell you that I'm sorry I couldn't (or didn't) make it work with you. Happy for you both. I had no hope in life, no future as it seemed. Maybe its the first time you fell in love, or the worst argument you have ever had with someone you love. I am the same as you. . A common call to the SANE Helpline often goes like this: 'I think my partner, daughter or son has borderline personality disorder (BPD) and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around them. I got my diagnosis when i was 18. Click to enable/disable essential site cookies. I want there to be love in the world. For the children of a borderline, however, this is their reality. I'm usually pretty good at keeping my head, and not fighting back, whenever she does this. I was lonely, worried and scared. Thank you for taking the time to share your story. Learn DBT Skills Online at EmotionallySensitive.com These are the skills that helped this blogs author overcome BPD! He doesn't even understand why he is holding back from me. I promise you I wanted to be the man you knew, and I desperately wish we could put things back together. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm looking forward to reading more of your blog. Click to enable/disable Google Analytics tracking. It's thought. I would love if you linked to this post from your blog. Perhaps some don't even reach that point. This was very well thought out and appreciated. I wish you peace. It's like you're a baby learning everything all over again. Last but not least, thank you for the wonderful open letter. My mom and dad talked about my fear of abandonment and decided not to go on long vacations together anymore, because I always become unstable when they do. She told me the other day that I didn't need to be hospitalized or need medications because now i have a job. before you all jump on me telling me i'm in denial don't want to get help etc i've done nothing but GET HELP for years. BPD, Ghosting, and Abandonment Issues WHEN A PERSON WITH BPD IS GHOSTED It can be incredibly difficult when someone suddenly disappears or "ghosts" from your life especially once you've risked your heart, allowed yourself to be vulnerable, and have become emotionally attached or invested. Hugs! Mind Australia Borderline Personality Disorder Family and Carer Group. You have to find the tools that work for you personally. Live life to the fullest. "I was just a kid whose family were all alcoholics and heroin addicts. Open Letter. Having BPD is no picnic, either. Deal with the label in a way that makes sense to you. It takes even more work when there I'd probably try again if he asked me, but I know he won't. Thanks. To receive a diagnosis of BPD, five of these nine symptoms need to be present (1): Feeling empty, or having low self-esteem. My look on life was empty and my selfimage was terrible. Copyright 2023 NAMI. A lover, a friend, a parent or sibling, and a coworker all have the privilege of having a frame of reference to place the borderline in. I love this person, but the situation can be so hurtful. I truly appreciate what you said. She often tears into me at the slightest provocation (one night a couple of weeks ago, for example, she said she needed some time alone, and locked herself in our bedroom. You have said all the things I've always wanted to say to the people who are or who have been in my life. This post is just to give you an idea of the typical suffering and thoughts those of us with BPD have. People with BPD have extreme mood swings, unstable relationships and trouble controlling their emotions. Most of my family doesnt believe in my diagnosis, and any friend I ever made has left because of the brief periods of time when I couldnt control my emotions. Thanks for writing this. , You are a brave and kind man. Thanks for giving others hope by being a partner who is interested in learning more about his girlfriend's condition, and please also be sure to use very good self-care and seek support for YOU, too. This is called splitting, and its part of the disorder. An open letter to family and friends regarding the person they know with Borderline Personality Disorder, Manipulative, attention-seeking, dramatic, broken, crazy. I am so incredibly happy that you have found some hope! And I know it's because I still have so much to learn. I also hope that you engage in self-care to take care of YOU during this stressful time. You are free to opt out any time or opt in for other cookies to get a better experience. I so desperately want you to understand. Sometimes I feel understanding. This is called dissociation. This time she almost did it. where you can take online Dialectical Behavior Therapy Classes from anywhere in the world. 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